“Eliminate instead of organize.”

Let’s sit on that for a second, “Eliminate instead of organize.”

How many of us use the word organize when is comes to our homes, closet, offices, garages, and or friends and priorities?

In some instances, yes we could organize, but probably in more rather than less instances we should be eliminating things in our lives and surrounding to really better ourselves. I just read, “If you haven’t fixed that broken thing laying around in 6 months its just becoming clutter.” I immediately thought of so many things I have that I have started, or yes that are broken and I haven’t fixed.

I have no problem eliminating “things”, like clothes, trash, or clutter. My girlfriend is not such a fan. She hates it when I ask her to go through her stuff or tell her I am going to clean out the fridge and pantry. On the other hand, when it comes to eliminating, “things”, in my life that do not better, build, or give growth to me I don’t always have the best judgement. I will mention I am sure a lot that we become most like the 5 closest people in our life. I can totally see it. I have few adults in my every day life but I have younger people, teens, and littles ones. Yup, I can be bratty and moody and act like a baby. But I can also when taken out of that situation be my age and take care of business. I am not proud of it, but well when I am at home I act like what I am surrounded by and at work I also do just that.

In order to find balance in life, we need to be able to know what belongs in our life and what might be the best out of it. Some situations will organically happen coming in and out, but what I struggle with is trying to keep the bad out. At first I will try to organize it and give it very little time or space. I don’t handle all for instances correctly. Some will think I abandoned them and then I have to deal with how “they” feel instead of how I feel because I am too afraid to be like, ” look you really bring me down and I just can’t anymore.”

I try to be sure about what I “need” and “have” to eliminate and or organize. There will be a few people and things that will hear and see what I am saying and doing, and want to keep me and not flip it to blame me and say it is me, so I have to be careful. I never try and want people to be hurt by what I feel is best for me, but the ones that won’t are the ones that understand and are more mature and well, the ones that will get angry and defensive, I will need to learn to be strong.

When it comes to things, I have always been one that does not need a lot. I have few and try to take care of and value what I have. Aside from a few new things, most clothes and furniture and stuff, I have all had like 10+ years. I will keep and use things till I just can’t anymore. I have been reading a lot of self help, self motiving books and following more positive influencers on social media. It is so refreshing when I cut back on trying to organize my life, friends, and space and just eliminate it and fill it with more forward focused and positive things.

I constantly play this quote over in my head, “Nothing worth having comes easy, but hard work pays off.” I am not saying go hardcore and get rid of all people and things, but I am suggesting to look at all people and things maybe a different way. Try looking at them as, “will it better me or bitter me?” Of course there will be certain circumstances but for non breathing things. If we can begin to understand what we need in our life and have things that lift us up and make us better then we might just be able to find peace. While doing this we need to also remember that our journey is different than those around us, so what we might need to eliminate might not be the same for someone else. Some might live easy just organizing the clutter and unnecessary things around them, it is not ours to judge.