Let’s talk WORDS

Something that has been said to me recently has made a huge, HUGE change in my whole thought process. My friend first asked and made time for me to check in and see how I was, which “Quality time” is my number 1 love language, just so you know. But back to what they said. She said “That the words that you say after you say them are no longer yours and now the persons you said it to.”

Since that day, that has been on constant replay in my head before I do anything. In any situation I have been in since, I have made sure that I have thought about how, when, why, and what I say to everyone. I am guilty of not always saying the right thing because of the certain moments, or hoping for a certain reaction, but no longer.

I will say what I want, need, and have to say but know that I have thought about it first. I will slip up because I am human but 99.9% of the time I will make sure that my words will be intentional and as clear as it can be. Every situation will be different and so will the thought process. Sometimes I might not say anything because it’s just not needed or I have not processed my thoughts yet.

I am someone that wants to speak love, kindness, and my truth. Again I will mess up sometimes but I will always try my best. Thinking before we speak or knowing when we shouldn’t is huge. A lot of people will think that what they say and how they say it is either helpful or them being honest.

Real honesty comes from ourselves, anything else is just their opinion. Again there will be people in your life that you will hold high enough to allow their opinion because you know what they are saying has been thought about. Let that in. Hold that high. Listen to them and know that their actual intentions are well, because not everyone’s is.

Words are powerful, we know this. And we hold value to the words of the people we hold value to. Now that I think about it the words we say to ourselves are just as powerful if we value ourselves. Not everyone values them self, again I am guilty of that as well. I know I need to be better and I try to do better each day.

So let’s challenge ourselves to remember that whether to people or just to us, the words we say are no longer ours but the persons we same them to. Lets lead with well intentions and love when we speak.