New, always becomes old

The beginning of anything in life is always exciting and exhilarating. Learning new things, all the new feelings, all the new experiences, but life does and will happen. New is something you create. That you keep. That you have to continue to find new so that you can keep that, well, high so to speak.

But not knowing how to keep and create that constant new feeling will hold you in the past. Someone stuck there, in the beginning, will never know how to live in the present and future. That’s when you have to do “The Work”. The work to keep learning. The work to keep trying new things.

These days I have found there are not many that do the work. The real work. If we did this the world and so many relationships would be so different, love and friendships. It’s not easy but nothing worth having and keeping is.

Now I can only speak of my own experiences and well although I am presently single, that does not mean I did not do the work. When in a relationship it takes two. To be real, honest, and completely upfront about who you are. Like who you are. There are so many that are either too afraid or just too fake to give that to the person they are with.

Now you don’t have to word vomit it all out the first day but definitely in the beginning, because that will as much as you think it might not help determine whether there will be a chance to continue to work on keeping the new and learning of each other. There are so many things that can keep people on their toes.

I know that there will be times when things become routine, stagnant, or even boring. At times that’s okay because maybe life at that time might need that but, it should not be forgotten that there is always something new to learn or try.

In life and in relationships things happen, good and bad. Some experiences break us or even sometimes slow things down and can take a toll on things. If we get stuck in those moments and times it can make it utterly difficult to get past and try to find new and exciting. We can allow it to paralyze us in life and make it hard to move past. Some will drown and revert to wanting to relive the past instead of remembering that you can find and work to have that right where you are to help pull you out of it.

Some will succeed and some will just bail and find it elsewhere because there has just been too much to dilute the clear picture that was. That feeling you had and remember that it is possible. some just don’t know how to. Every relationship and friendship started somewhere. That just doesn’t go away, unless you are just so shut off and cold.

Finding that spark again, that thing that brought you two together is and always will be there. It doesn’t have to be something deep but can be as simple as something said or as deep as something felt. That is always there in relationships or friendships that work for years, even if they fell apart at some point. It’s not for all because all are not that in tune with themselves. Those are the ones that hop, skip, and jump around.

With all of that, all I am trying to say is kind of like that saying “The grass isn’t always greener on the other side, but will be green where you water it.” Everything takes work but you have to both be truly in it and honestly open to doing the work together because it is possible.