Let me introduce myself…

“Work hard until you no longer have to introduce yourself.”

In order for you to really want to know more about me and my life, let me share who I am with you. I am a salon owner, partner, mother, step-mother, daughter, sister, artist, photographer, lover of music, and people.

My biggest accomplishment in life so far I feel is my daughter. Although she is at an age right now that, well, I am having some challenges with, she is the best part of me. Me and my daughters other mother divorced over 9 years ago. It wasn’t always easy but we have come a long way and worked hard to heal and understand what is left and well, I am happy to say she is remarried, I have been with my partner for the last 4 years , and for the last year my ex has worked at my salon as a stylist. I know it is not for everyone to understand but my daughter is happy and all of us get along.

Staying on accomplishments, my next biggest is my salon. Abeille Salon opened in 2010, and although I am not famous and serving the celebrities, I am extremely proud of all of the stylists I have had and currently have the honor to work alongside with. I have grown up watching my Dad run his company for the last 19+ years, and how he has treated his employees, and created a name for himself. It has always fueled me on how I want to be. I have created a work family. We all get along (most of the time I did say family), we support each other in our work and personal life, and we respect each other as stylists. My dad has always been one of my main mentors. He and his business are now requested because he worked hard to make a name and was good to people. I have been doing hair for 18 almost 19 years and I love it. Sure there are some days, especially when I have to wear my boss hat, where it feels like work, but most days I get to do what I love, where I love, and with people I love. We get to be day makers.

A little about my family. My parents have been married for 45 years and from that came my brother and I. My dad has been many things but for the last 20 years he has been in hospital construction. My mom was a dietician for many years, but has been retired for awhile, and last my brother is, literally, the jack of all trades, but his main job is and has been ministries and is currently at Bayside Church. I have grown up watching hard times, tough decisions, loyalty, commitment, and sacrifice from my parents. I was raised to give, share what I can, to lift up those around me, and to love all. I was taught to have a soft heart, and hard shell. I was also taught to trust in God and know that He is the one that provides.

Now for my personal life. I will talk more about it in future posts but I will give you the gist now. I met my current partner 19 years ago at a party and obviously we went our separate ways and lived our lives until about 4 years ago when she reached out to come and work at my salon. We reconnected and well, here we are. She came in to my life with 3 kids. Her oldest is 15, middle is 13, and youngest is 5. 1 girl and 2 boys. Her and I come from extremely different pasts and how we were raised. With that, our kids have been raised differently and to be honest, it has been hard at times and a lot of feelings of uncertainty in so much. It has not been easy and there have been a lot of ups and downs. We are so very different and came in to this relationship each with a lot of baggage. Like I said it has not been easy, and in the short time we have been through a lot, but what relationship doesn’t, right?

Well I hope that this introduction has provided information that will keep you sticking around to find out more in details about everything I have shared.

Freedom of speech…

“Creativity is intelligence having fun.” -Albert Einstein

I know, I just jumped in so let me just take a minute to explain a little more behind the motive of me starting this blog. I am not even really sure I can call it that but with all the research and books I have been reading, that is what they call it.

I am new to all of this, but have had a heavy feeling on my heart for a while and well here goes nothing.

I wanted to start this “blog” as a platform for me to download my thought and feelings in a safe, yet public space, kind of like a journal open for comments and feedback. I would like this space for all ages and for any gender. My hopes are to share my stories and spread positivity in hopes someone can relate and know they are not alone. I don’t know if my story or feelings will be relatable with anyone or any age but I need to try.

I feel like I can relate to kids going through things in life and to adults just trying to get through the day. If I can reach, relate to, or even remind someone of something good then this might just work. Life is hard and with everything there is now that wasn’t around when I was younger makes it even more hard and honestly kind of depressing.

Please remember that these will be my thoughts and feelings. I am not a big politics person, I will never push religion on anyone, and I love inspiring people. I might speak of my thoughts and beliefs pertaining to both but that is because I can.

In the next one I will share more about me and my life. If you know someone that might be interested in getting to know me or need someone indirectly please share.